Early on in my recovery, I discovered the teachings of Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj. The Indian guru said many things that resonated with me deeply as I tried to learn acceptance, moderation and other essential lessons for addicts.
Here’s a key quote from “I Am That”:
“Between the banks of pain and pleasure the river of life flows. It is only when the mind refuses to flow with life, and gets stuck at the banks, that it becomes a problem. By flowing with life I mean acceptance — letting come what comes and go what goes. Desire not, fear not, observe the actual, as and when it happens, for you are not what happens, you are to whom it happens.”
I’m trying lately to picture myself on that river floating on a raft and not clinging to the banks. Just letting the thoughts come and go: painful and pleasurable ones. Just keep floating down the river. It can be an uneasy feeling at first. I’m addicted to a lot of things, including thinking. But eventually this method gives me great peace when I stick to it.